Taming the Temper: Walking in the Spirit of Peace By: Major Frank Materu
Key Scripture:
"He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly." — Proverbs 14:29 (KJV)
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Introduction
In our increasingly chaotic and emotionally volatile world, outbursts of temper have become normalized. Whether it's in the home, on the streets, in politics, or even within church walls, anger has overtaken peace as the dominant emotional response. This lesson addresses the spiritual, psychological, and social consequences of uncontrolled anger, as well as the divine provision for its cure. Based on prophetic revelation and biblical truths, this message serves as both a rebuke and a remedy to those who struggle with explosive temperaments.
God, in His infinite wisdom, never intended for humanity to live enslaved to emotional instability. Rather, He provided the Holy Spirit as a guiding and controlling presence, offering peace and self-control to those who walk in His ways. Let us therefore examine the implications of uncontrolled anger and the life-giving alternative of Spirit-led living.
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The Danger of Uncontrolled Anger
"Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools." — Ecclesiastes 7:9
Uncontrolled anger opens the door to destruction. It may feel justified in the moment, but its consequences are long-lasting and devastating. Many lives, relationships, and reputations have been destroyed because of unchecked temper tantrums. Domestic violence, road rage, verbal abuse, and even murder often begin with a moment of undisciplined wrath. God warns us clearly: “The wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.” (James 1:20)
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Substances and Sinful Escalation
"Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise." — Proverbs 20:1
Substance abuse and temper are often closely tied. Under the influence of alcohol or drugs, many have committed atrocities they would never attempt while sober. These substances become tools of the enemy to release stored-up aggression and pave the way for demonic possession and destruction. A life led by the Holy Spirit, however, is marked by temperance and clarity of mind (Galatians 5:22–23).
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The Sin of Complaining and Self-Pity
"Do all things without murmurings and disputings." — Philippians 2:14
Complaining is like a smoldering fire that can burst into a flame of emotional chaos. When one dwells on personal grievances and injustices, it leads to self-pity — a trap of the devil. The complaining heart magnifies problems, isolates the individual, and sets the stage for anger and bitterness. In contrast, a thankful heart shifts focus from self to God, welcoming His peace and direction.
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The Monster of Self-Idolatry
"This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves..." — 2 Timothy 3:1–2
When individuals yield to the god of self, they are worshiping a monster that is never satisfied. This internal idol demands attention, validation, and control — and when those desires are unmet, temper erupts. Self-idolatry births entitlement, and entitlement births anger. But Christ calls us to deny ourselves, take up our cross, and follow Him (Luke 9:23).
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The Influence of Environment and Example
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." — Proverbs 22:6
Children who exhibit violent behavior often mirror the actions of adults around them. They are trained, whether deliberately or indirectly, by their environment. Parents, guardians, and mentors must embody peace and self-control, for their example shapes the next generation. A home where the Spirit reigns produces children who walk in peace.
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The Global Consequences of Unchecked Anger
"Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall." — Proverbs 16:18
Uncontrolled anger among world leaders results in wars and national ruin. History is littered with the devastation caused by impulsive and arrogant rulers. Instead of seeking God’s wisdom, they trust their instincts and pride. This same spirit works at all levels of society. When people are not ruled by the Spirit, chaos reigns.
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The Spirit of Praise Over the Spirit of Complaint
"In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you." — 1 Thessalonians 5:18
Praise is a powerful spiritual weapon. When we shift our focus from our problems to God’s promises, anger loses its grip. A heart full of praise has no room for temper. Praise invites God’s presence, and where God dwells, peace abides (Psalm 22:3). The decision to praise rather than pout will change your atmosphere and your outcome.
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Redeemed for a New Life
"If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new." — 2 Corinthians 5:17
Redemption through Jesus is not just about going to heaven — it’s about living a transformed life on earth. You have been delivered from the prison of temper, complaint, and rage. You now have the mind of Christ and the fruit of the Spirit within you. That includes self-control (temperance), a vital gift for victorious living.
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Summary
Outbursts of temper are destructive, contagious, and spiritually dangerous. They lead to broken relationships, physical harm, and eternal regret. God calls His people to a higher standard — a Spirit-led life of peace, patience, and self-control. Complaining, self-idolatry, and demonic rage are tools of the enemy, but God offers the peace of Christ to those who walk by the Spirit.
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Conclusion
God’s people must no longer tolerate the presence of unchecked anger in their lives. We are called to be ambassadors of peace, vessels of honor, and reflections of Jesus Christ. Through the Holy Spirit, we have the power to say no to rage and yes to righteousness. Let us daily choose the path of praise over complaint, calm over chaos, and self-control over self-idolatry.
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Call to Action
Today, take inventory of your emotional responses. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal areas of unrepented anger or subtle habits of complaint. Confess them before God. Declare your freedom from the bondage of the temper and begin a journey of emotional discipline and spiritual victory.
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Final Word of Encouragement
You are not alone in your struggle. The Spirit of God is your Helper, your Comforter, and your Teacher. If you fall, rise again and keep going. There is joy, peace, and victory in the life of surrender. Do not be discouraged — your temper does not define you; the cross does.
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Salvation Prayer
Heavenly Father, I come before You today acknowledging that I am a sinner in need of salvation. I believe that Jesus Christ is Your Son who died for my sins and rose again. I repent of my sins and ask for Your forgiveness. Lord Jesus, come into my heart, be my Savior and my Lord. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit and teach me to walk in Your ways. Today, I choose to follow You. Thank You for saving me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
